This blog is intended for the parents who are not/were not the ones giving birth. I will usually write from the male/father perspective because that is the one with which I identify, however, I see the principles of this blog applying to same-sex couples, adoptive parents, and parents of surrogates. The basic needs remain the same.
When I learned I was going to be a father, and soon after, the father of multiples, I realized quickly there is little social, community, or even online discussion of what those things mean nor how one navigates these states in any honest and pragmatic sense. Frankly, I think the contemporary literature and social expectations glaze over the role of the “father”/partner and front ideals that are not constructive. Moreover, the varied and complex physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual impacts of fatherhood are buried under the unrealistic expectations of a romantic and misguided society.
I will tell it as it is. I am your eccentric brother who wants to help and who may often make you laugh at your own anxiety, because frankly : you and I need to do a lot of laughing to get through the day.